Our likes and dislikes change so often! You like something and then dislike it and so on. Life should not be swayed away by likes and dislikes but well-founded on commitment - Sri Sri
How true – isn’t it? Very much applicable – especially in today’s generation. The extreme likes and dislikes that we have; it’s not even funny. People can change over a period of time – that’s understandable. As a kid you may have specific likings for a particular food item, book, music or a person and 10 years down the line – you may feel differently. With changes in age, education, lifestyle, experiences and the works, our outlook and habits can go through a sea change.
What is unfortunately creeping in in our lives is the frequency and time spans of these changes in likes/ dislikes. We buy a phone / car today – dislike it tomorrow and if we have the means, change it. We spend a fortune on a piece of furniture and suddenly 2 months down the line, we are repelled at the sight of it. When it is limited to materialistic things like cars/ furniture, it is still ok (though not for the wallet and my middle class values find such acts pretty irresponsible – but each to its own!)
What is more perilous is our likes / dislikes regarding people or their habits – when they change at the brink of a hat; it is a matter of concern. Our lifestyles today have gifted us with shorter attention spans, limited patience levels and a bag full of independence. Our likes/ dislikes have not only become stronger, but they also recur from time to time. We may fall in love with a person –he / she may have some aspects of his / her personality which you absolutely adore and some which you mildly dislike. As and when you grow closer, the former aspects are taken for granted and the latter change from mild dislikes to major irritants and can graduate to God knows what level! We may in a spurt of anger have fights, worse still - move away but what we don’t realize is that the person is still the same. One you fell in love with; your feelings may change back tomorrow and you might regret your actions.
What become crucial is our control on our minds – that we don’t get swayed by our likes and dislikes. Likes and dislikes may change from time to time; it is a natural human trait but we do have a choice – to just observe our feelings and not react.It’s not an easy job, requires an amazing amount of self-control and maturity. Even while on it, one may falter and get swayed. What separates us from the rest is that we don’t get disheartened by our failures, accept that we have faltered and move on – on the same path. That makes us men / women of true character.
Mansee's Point Of View
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What I think is,
Before we take any verdict we never evaluate ourselves about our eligibility for any verdict. I think we should perform this process first and if we feel that we have successfully completed this process; then only we may come to any conclusion (But still I will never come to any conclusion if I am judging an individual).
There is a pattern to resolve this burning issue of common lifestyle.
We can try to understand human qualities with its basics. Like there are 4 major patterns of humans;
1.Me Only
2.You Only
3.Me and You
4.You and Me
Now out of these qualities we need to judge which is best for us and how to deal with it.
In current cats & dogs life we always miss one common human quality, that is to be simple.
A great say by someone
“It is so simple to be happy, but it is so difficult to be simple”.
Then I think life will become SIMPLE.
Isn't it?
Relate it to liking and disliking…..!
It’s all about what we judge, let say a situation, person, tangible things & non tangible things.
Sometimes we judge person with out knowing him, we may dislike that person at once but after words we may feel that we were wrong and visa versa. This whole process we execute with out evaluating ourselves first. I think this is wrong way to live a simple and full of love life. That is the root cause of whole situation. Once you complete this process knowing yourself first and then others; I think there will be nothing left call liking and disliking.
my perspective,
We are committed to what we like.. For eg. when we are child we are committed to tom & jerry and cartoon netowork, when we are young we are committed to sachin tendulkar(cricket.football or any sport), movie stars bf/gf etc...
its human nature that at different point of time in our life we are bound to like / dislike different things...
it would be foolish to cling to something that we used to like in past but now have no more feelings for the same.. if someone asks you to watch pokemon(its a cartoon) for 5 hours daily.. can you bear that?? ... it would be torture...but as a child you would have done it for sure... we must learn to let it go.. then only we can explore the new wonderful world ahead .. :-)
Hey Nikhil...
thats what I have written..that transition from childhood likes to adult likes is understandable...whats not is the constant changes ..
We r so random sometimes...we like something today...tom we have different feelings...that fast a transition is not good...I feel...but I agree with exploring the new :))
HI,
Really nice write up. But i say change is very much part of life,.. the more you allow change in life the more you explore your self.. Actually change is very apprehensive for many people including me, but still i keep on changing many things not because of strong dis/likes but to explore many parts of life.
Variety is spice of life.. after all. SOme times we dont know, change is a blessing in disguise, whatever it may either in relationships or materialistic things.
Learn to move on with life.. I think moving on is so interesting..that after some time we get addicted to move on.Isn't it
Well said ... Absolutely agree !
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